There are many ways to kill a dragon. I counted several hundred strong-man dragon interventions in the almost one hundred books I read when I was snake-charmed by the subject. Courage, strength and cleverness were the qualities looked for in a dragon vanquisher. Many battles led to happy endings where the victor gained a wife.

Myths and legends are a little like spring garden catalogs, offering pictures of the ways a man can gain a mate along with instructions to society and its women on how to best encourage the man’s strong features. Our catalog of stories for the last few thousand years have offered guidance for the families of the women on how to pick strong, protective men for their grown-up little girls. When women began to pick their own husbands, they sought men with qualities that society respected, men with strength and streaks of independence, men who could be relied upon when dragons reared their heads.

Gilgamesh slew a dragon-like creature, a stand-in for the goddess, when records of these stories first emerged. Not just the Indo-Europeans, but Semitic, Asian and aboriginal peoples revel in these tales of acts of courage in gaining honor and a wife. Not incidentally, dragon slayers were crushing symbols of the old societies, the demonized serpent and the social structures that these symbols represented.

In goddess cultures, children were often raised by mothers and mothers’ brothers because they frequently had no idea who their father really was. Women controlled procreation. The exchange rate for acts of valor was depreciated by the fact that the man received no family in exchange for his courageous actions. To achieve the opportunity to have children, men had to impress the women in other ways. Women were not looking for the high testosterone guy who could fend off other tough guys, collect lots of stuff and make sure his wife did not dally around while she took care of the kids that he was sure were his own. Women were not looking for providers.

I am suggesting that before the Indo-Europeans, if a man sought a mating opportunity, he would have to dance his way into her heart. It is back when the women were strong and the men were good looking.

Well, those days are back again.

In just a little more than a single generation, there has been an extraordinary transformation in the criteria that a woman uses to pick a mate. We’d have to go back 6500 years, before the Indo-Europeans came barreling out of Southern Russia, to see anything like what has emerged of late. A host of factors have contributed to the transformation, including high divorce rates, high percentages of women employed in the work force, women with higher educations, increased leisure time, fewer children, children not dying of diseases, women not dying in childbirth and having children later in life. These are all factors contributing to a resurgence in an autonomous, self-assured female population confident that goals can be achieved without relying upon a dragon-slayer husband.

Add to that how few dragons there are left to slay. Strength and cunning are little needed in modern society, certainly far less than when life was arbitrary, short, cruel, brutal, etc. Many of the most successful men today are dancers of the mind, pattern manipulators, technical specialists, men that can find ways to be paid to encourage cooperation. Women are rejecting macho, seeking mucho. Mucho attention. What women want now is a man that offers a better quality of life in the form of a man that can contribute to her feeling loved and strong.

Hence the emergence of the autistic.

High testosterone females mating with low testosterone males created the foundation for matrifocal society, the goddess cultures. Vanquished for several thousand years, this societal hormonal constellation is making a major, sudden comeback. High testosterone males mating with low testosterone females, though still a powerful current in contemporary culture (visualize Republican), is a current on the wane. Three forces are converging, creating an environment where the autistic is returning, except that the world is not exactly prepared for his and her return.

High testosterone females produce maturational delayed, low testosterone males and maturational accelerated, high testosterone females. Maturation rate is determined on a day six weeks before birth, ~230 days after conception, based upon the mother’s hormone levels. Male decelerating maturational delay, in combination with other variables, can lead to autism. For females, maturational acceleration can have the same result.

Choosing our mates in an ancient fashion draws from the past, favoring types of individuals with physiological/neurological features born perhaps over 100,000 years ago. Our challenge and opportunity is to provide an environment where those features can mature


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11 Comments so far

  1. kush Sharma on June 18, 2008 12:01 pm

    Great work of research.I am impressed to read the reality and truth in the article.The facts mentioned can be co related with the cases of autism kids[parents of] around us .Great reading.

  2. Andrew on June 18, 2008 12:11 pm

    Thank you, kush. Tomorrow and Friday will go into detail describing causes #2 and #3 of autism.

  3. A on February 27, 2009 9:38 am

    Perhaps Aspergers is not exactly the same as autism. I do not recognise at all a situation where women prefer an Aspergers man. I think most women value social skills very highly. I do not think they prefer a man who has a few obsessional interests, who is no good at small talk. Such men are “trainspotters” and “anoraks”.
    I will say that in their favour Aspergers men do seem to carry fewer prejudices.
    This is all only from my own experience and reading, I have no qualifications.

  4. Andrew on February 28, 2009 8:55 am

    They say Silicon Valley is filled with male Aspergers candidates. I would be interesting to note the kind of woman that congregate in that region.

  5. A on February 28, 2009 12:09 pm

    Andrew – there are British versions of Silicon Valley over here, but I’m not sure our population is as mobile.

  6. A on February 28, 2009 12:59 pm

    In my experience of a couple where the man has Aspergers, the woman was good at mathematical things. She was not a girly girl in the sense that she was not catty or bitchy or competitive with other women. I think she liked him because he appreciated her high intelligence instead of preferring a stupider woman, as so many men seem to do. She did not like his inflexibility and refusal to do his share. They are now divorced.

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  10. Latin Aspie on June 20, 2018 11:56 pm

    Hi, I’m a male with Asperger’s Syndrome originally from a Latin country. As a student of history, I have to agree with the cyclical nature of humanity, and thus the cyclical lifecycles of civilizations. It seems that Anglo-Saxon society is headed towards a matrifocal social structure, and the effects are as you describe. We are moving towards the “Old Europe” historians refer to. However, some of the conclusions you draw trouble me. Europe was conquered by the Indo-Europeans for a reason. Likely because matrifocal societies become weak and are subjugated by stronger patrifocal societies. Old Europe was essentially genocided as we can see with the current Y-Hapolgroup distribution. A similar event occured in Ancient Rome, the same cycle you have described, and the Germanic, Iranic, and Turkic tribes ended up taking over. While matrifocality has some benefits, it seems an unsustainable form of existence for a civilization. If not for the geographic safety of Ango-Saxon and Germanic societies, you would not have the current matrifocality. And as the world becomes more interconnected and people migrate in larger numbers, it seems to me that those who developed matrifocality will be left essentially guardless, especially as Western Civilization declines due to factors too numerous to discuss here. While America becomes matrifocal, just south of the border Mexico is turning into a neo-feudal hypermasculine failed state. What will happen in the case that, say, the U.S. is engaged in civil conflict and fails to keep these narco-armies at bay? It will be like a Crisis of the Third Century all over again. Those parts of the world that do not become matrifocal, such as Afghanistan and Central America, will be the wellsprings of the next rulers of the world as the Pax Americana falls apart. Matrifocality is only possible under conditions of extreme safety. Two more things: I seem to be a high testosterone Aspie, how can that be explained? Males on the spectrum are sensitive but not necessarily nice-guy types,the isolation we experience turns many of us into quite the opposite. I think it is naive to see in us some sort of harbinger of the matrifocal world. Quiet the reverse may be the case, because a matrifocal society is actually more difficult for us to survive in. We fail at what such a society deems as desirable and prefer structure, such as a hierarchical society provides. We cannot dance, speaking is difficult, our tastes in music are often not fashionable, we want to dress differently. Women are honestly very annoying with the constant talking and superficial understanding of things, lack of interest in politics and the designs of things. Unless you are an aspie that is good with technological/mathematical, this new matrifocal world is actually a kind of hell. There is no spirituality, no wisdom, no preservation of anything, no sacredness. This is the matrifocal world, and this is why it ends up conquered.

  11. Latin Aspie on June 21, 2018 12:20 am

    The emotional and mental nature of women lends to erratic behavior at the level of the nation state, as we can see with the United States’ behavior for the last four decades. We live in a paranoid society of hypercontrol. We have signs everywhere saying what you can and cannot do. Another example is Germany with its absolutely delusional migrant policy, which is essentially female hypergamy gone insane combined with a birth rate so low they need to import people in order to maintain the same economic level. More joy is not what I see coming. My generation is not happy, does not feel secure. Our music is both depressing and bipolar, see trap music. What we are is more neurotic, more controlling, more disconnected, just like most women. Women have often asked me how it is men form bonds (tribes) and get shit done, because this is very difficult for them. As civiliations become matrifocal and the patrifocal institutions that allowed for its existence are dismantled, they become increasingly unstable. Ancient Rome is a hallmark in understanding this, especially since the U.S. is modeled after it.

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