Legends in Our Own Minds
August 3, 2008 |
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Category: Autism, Autism & Society, Autism Features, Auto-Biography, Maturation Rates, Neoteny, Social Structure, lefthanded
There is a tribe of males more than a little infatuated with themselves and their own ideas. We’re often described as narcissists. Upon discovering I fit into this group, I was appalled, and predictably I obsessed that I was too obsessed with my own behavior.
I now look at myself as a recovering narcissist. I observe how frequently I engage in being a legend in my own mind. Sometimes I’m amused. Sometimes I’m not.
My wife is tolerant but not particularly amused. Interestingly, I come across few women narcissists.
Narcissism often gets relegated to an example of an early developmental stage that gets carried into adulthood as a result of trauma or a peculiar environment that caused a freezing of psychological resources in the past. This effect is not unlike following a recipe while making a cake. If at an early stage something goes awry, you may end up with a less than delightful outcome. Accidentally add salt instead of sugar early in the process and the results will be unique but not particularly edible.
I’m playing with the idea that there is healthy narcissism characterized by the person feeling accompanied while they feel they are the center of the…


